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How are we going to take back our country? Many of you out there have been studying on this question for years, just like I have. My opinion? We have to start small. And….you men are going to have to ride point, just like you always have when things get tough.

Let’s start (quietly) with the military and law enforcement arenas. Men are bigger, way stronger, and naturally more aggressive than women. You are supposed to be. This is what makes you men. For these reasons, those among us who have criminal tendencies or ambitions to militarily invade America are apt to tread softly when faced with other men who are willing to dispute their bad intentions. This is an excellent deterrent when given it’s proper place in the public eye. The female of our species simply does not have the physical presence to do this job.

On the other hand, in a civilized society such as we have, you men are also taught to show some respect for those weaker than you are in our social structure, such as women, children, and older people. This is what makes you civilized.

With the advent of Women’s Liberation, that segment of our female population who have not got a functioning brain began to make a nuisance of themselves passing sociological gas about “EQUALITY” because they have some dim notion that men are better then they are and of course, are not going to admit that. Basically, they were and still are, intimidated by men generally and have instituted a program in all our public schools to castrate you in the name of social justice. My thought on this is—-tell them to shut up. This is the one instance you don’t have to be socially acceptable when dealing with this type of feminine bilge.

For the rest of it, be polite. You can do this firmly by remembering that you are dealing with the weaker sex. (and man—don’t they hate to hear that!) It is true that their delicate feelings are more important to them then national or even local security. Besides being the right thing for you to do, being polite to the female dimwits who give themselves airs about their “equality” with you,  really yanks their chain. This will provide you with some comic relief on the job.

No one is raising their daughters to be ladies anymore, young women are expected to be tough, and independent. This is not making them happy and being both female and very young, they are not self aware enough to look at their teachers and parents and say to themselves, “you know what? This liberation stuff is crap. I’d lots rather have a peaceful home with a decent husband and a couple of children.” Because of a few maladjusted females, wife and motherhood as an option for a “successful” life for a girl are no longer even mentioned and whether they know it or not, our daughters are feeling cheated. They take this bad temper into the fields of the military and law enforcement and are allowed to pass it off as being tough. You men all know better than this. So here is my suggestion guys.

Stop pulling your punches. You men who have been called upon to “train” these young females in an essentially male line of work that calls for real muscle, which they have not got, have been pulling your punches during this training and you are not doing these females, yourselves, or your country any favors. Stop telling these poor fatherless girls that they are tough when in fact, they are merely bad tempered as I just said. You will have to hang together and cover each other when the liberated lesbians start bitching but hey—that’s what guys do best. And remember—no sexual obscenities  or sadism, just make them do what you do and hit them just as hard as you would any other male trainee. They won’t make the grade if you men (politely) stop giving them a free pass.

There is a beginning of a movement now among some of the women in our country who have been through the sexual revolution and will back you. I am not just talking through my hat when I say that a lot of American women are tired of being treated like one of the guys or even worse, a street whore, in the name of equality.

We miss you, gentlemen. There are young girls growing up in America who have never seen a real man. You do not have to tell a whore that she is “liberated” because she is offended by the plain truth. And the working definition of a whore is any female who does not show some respect for you just because you are men. You deserve our respect. Your country misses your input socially and politically. It’s o.k. for you to have a healthy set. You do not have to apologize for being men. Not anymore. So shake ‘em down boys.

A. Farwell

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Since this type of thing seems to be growing and spreading in our society, we should all take a few minutes to analyze just why this may be so. How do we combat something like this? What is the root cause?

Well, the root cause is lack of natural affection during childhood and adolescence. It really is this simple, people. Combine this with the excessive sexual pressures we subject our adolescents to in the public school system by not adequately supervising them at such a crucial stage in their personal development and you have a great and efficient recipe for social disaster.

All of this traces back to the lack of nurturing.(http://wp.me/p1BaiG-5m) Nowadays, it is the accepted procedure for mothers to deliver in the hospitals and send their newborns almost directly into daycare because Mom has to get back to her real job. There is absolutely no attempt made at nurturing, no personal family bonds are being created. This is very, very bad.

As I have said before, emotional fulfillment is the most important aspect of sentient life and the basis for it is found in our birth families. If they fail to nurture us sufficiently in this respect, we are set up for failure in the rest of our life relationships. Recognizing this early lack can be a great help in processing the way we react to others in our adult lives and in clarifying our relationship choices. Let us consider a few basic facts of emotional life for humans.

1. The expression of natural affection from parent to child(not vice versa) is the blueprint upon which all of us map the course of our life relationships. This is how we learn to show caring and affection and consideration for others, regardless of gender. It is the only relationship we know that does not have an element of sexuality in it. It is not supposed to and if it does, in the form of molestation, it is the worst horror our society knows.

2. We all bond more closely with members of our own sex. This is a perfectly natural thing. Men and women process information in different ways and we are all more socially comfortable with people who think the way we do. We have more in common with members of our own gender on a day-to-day basis, therefore we seek them first when looking for a stable and fulfilling social environment.

3. The lack of natural, affectionate nurturing in childhood leaves us vulnerable (extremely) as we mature into our respective versions of adult sexuality. Physical intimacy becomes a substitute for this first and most important relationship in our lives and since the substitution has no real validity, the sexual relationship fails the minute the “new” wears off.

Sex is a wonderful and important thing to most of us. In an adult relationship, we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, trusting that the other person will not betray us, or desert us, or fail to consider our personal needs along with or sometimes even ahead of their own. Because you see, that is what our parents were supposed to do for us and mostly, did not. And that is what most of us are now seeking in an adult, sexual relationship. So. Is this expectation valid?

My opinion? Yes, the expectation is valid. The sense of protection and care we receive from our parents is the pattern on which we base the relationships of our adult life—all of them. This is the way it is supposed to be. There is no sexual orientation to this pattern, also the way it is supposed to be. The sexuality comes later, in adolescence and adulthood. Again, the way it is supposed to. We have raised up several generations of children who have no sense of their sexual orientation because they are all stuck in this childhood mode since it was never supplied to them when it was most needed. When they enter adolescence they combine the two, which is neither surprising or acceptable, either one.

The problem comes from our inherited emotional poverty. After the new wears off of a relationship we have two emotionally deprived people who sit there and wait for the other guy to step up and be the grown up. This is so very seldom the case. And after x number of failed relationships, many people begin to look at other options for that sense of emotional fulfillment that has been lacking in their lives heretofore. For this, they fall back on the premise I listed above as emotional fact of life #2. We all bond more closely with members of our own gender. This particular process is especially seen in women. I have noticed that many women turn “gay” in their thirties and forties after failed marriages and several children.

3. The lack of emotional fulfillment in childhood increases the sense of sexual need in the adolescent. This is especially true for young men. Their entrance into puberty is exclusively sexual, rampant, and since it is not being covered in our society by any type of adult amelioration, particularly emotionally shredding for them.

During adolescence we are looking about us and finding our place in this world, both as citizens and as sexual adults. Given the total lack of nurturing and natural affection we are starting our children out in life with, it is not surprising to me that so many of them are combining their emergent adolescent sexuality with their more important need for social integration and acceptance and supposing themselves to be “naturally gay” or “born that way” simply because American society totally ignores their basic emotional needs from birth. We are sacrificing our young on the altar of the Great God of Education and ignoring their most human needs.

After these poor, parentless people have turned to a sexual relationship with a member of their own gender in an attempt to supply the normal social intercourse that has been lacking in their lives, they continue their quest for acceptance, which has not been met by their same-sex relationship, by insisting that all the world condone what they have done by public legislation. And the American Christian conservative public is protesting in great horror at the unnatural relationships which their own ignorance and neglect have fostered. I don’t know about ya’ll but I call this a homemade mess. Now let’s look at the physical aspects of this question.

1. What feels good physically, feels good no matter who is doing it. This fact has added its two cents to the emotional mess of same-sex relationships. There is nothing wrong with sex. That is a fact. So what can be wrong with having sex with anyone, regardless of their gender? Can you answer this one? The several generations of young American men and women who have been deprived of their natural affection compass by our current cultural process are particularly vulnerable here. Most of us emerge into adulthood with both social and sexual needs and since the first is not met in any way, the second has become the slide rule used to determine social value. Not a good idea.

2. Lack of sexual satisfaction is common to both genders in their physical relationships. This is also a fact. Many men have been seduced into homosexual relationships simply because their basic physical needs are not being met by women. What does it say about us as a society that our sons feel they have to go to other men? And what about our daughters? Having to rely on men who have been both emotionally and sexually brutalized during their most sensitive years does not provide them with a reliable adult partner, physically or any other way.

This is because we do not give either gender of our children any advice or training about what should be happening in their bedrooms. Americans tend to be very puritanical about the subject generally. For the life of me, I can’t understand why. The subject certainly requires a sense of modesty, but this guilt ridden, hush-hush, leave your kids to get on as best they can mentality is beyond belief for intelligent beings. Sex is a normal function of life and should be treated as such and yet Americans still purvey this bad, guilty attitude to their children. We need to start imbuing them with the more correct notion that sex in itself is not bad, using other people to wipe your behind sexually, that is bad.

While sexual urges are common to both genders, the motivations for those urges are not the same, at all. For men the urges are predominantly physical, for women they tend to be emotional while in both cases there are elements of both factors. This does not make an easy mix to deal with.

From all the available evidence, neither gender seems to be satisfied with the current arrangement so they have taken to same-sex relationships in an attempt to complete their own needs. This is not working either. Domestic violence and bad emotional breakups are more common in same-sex relationships than they are in heterosexual ones, per couple. The LGBT is not publicizing this fact however. I am writing this in case any of you are thinking that a same-sex lover is going to be your ticket to emotional nirvana. NOT!

I am now going to write a very dirty word. It is a word you do not ever hear anymore, it being so very bad. Tenderness. This word is worse than libido, penis, lust, or even, low be it spoken, desire. It is not a word we allow ourselves to think anymore, let alone speak. Tenderness is supposed to be an integral part of our human emotional experience and it is no longer. It has been replaced by words like “hot.” Someone attractive to the opposite(or same) sex is spoken of as being “hot.” If someone expresses an interest in you, you are being “hit on.” This is intrinsically violent in implication. Our adult sexual needs have been reduced to this on the public level, heat and violence.

Without the natural affection and nurturing of childhood, tenderness has departed from every aspect of our adult lives, not just the sexual aspect. No one has cared for the tenderness of children, there is no allowance made for it in our public educational system. We go into daycare, almost from the moment of birth, into pre-K programs, then into twelve years of grammar and high school. We spend most of our child lives trying to cope with strangers. Is it any wonder that so many are turning to same-sex relationships in an attempt to feel that social bonding that is normal? The method is not going to work, but the motivation is understandable. Sex and affection are not the same thing. How are we going to re-instill this basic fact into such lost children as we have raised?

Alieff Farwell

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The second paragraph of the Declaration of Independence of the thirteen united States of America opens with these much quoted words…

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness.–

At the time Thomas Jefferson penned these words, this world was a much different place and the accepted criteria for the term ‘man’ was also different. Mr. Jefferson, you see, was writing for and about his peer group, Caucasian men of business who by their own talents, business acumen, and management skills, had created a certain amount of wealth and standing in their respective communities here in the New World. So when he wrote the words ‘all men are created equal’ he did not literally mean ‘all’ at all. The footmen who served at his and his peers tables and the coachmen and gardeners who serviced their estates were not under consideration here. Succeeding generations seem to have missed this very salient point. This constitutes the Error of Equality.

The people in these men’s communities appointed these business leaders to hammer out the political semantics by which they could all prosper according to their individual lights. All the fifty-six signers of the document were such men. There were no second footman, coachmen, or apothecaries assistants asked to sign this document. It was not written to express the opinions of the servant class in the colonies, and while the above mentioned were certainly male, they were not considered men in the public sense of the word. Servants, along with women and slaves, were considered dependents, and it was understood by all that they would be considered and provided for by the men who employed them or stood as father, husband, or owner.

The men of the British Isles were accustomed to have a say in public affairs through the process of voting and this custom was imported to the colonies. What American’s today do not remember or have never been taught is that not all men could vote, not even back then. Voting was a privilege earned through sound business practice, it was never considered a “Right” granted automatically upon coming of age to just any old body. A man had to be a property owner at a certain pre-determined monetary value in order to be allowed to vote in his community. This was true on both sides of the Atlantic. Since the colonies were populated at their beginnings by men and women who came to this country expressly to create their own properties it was generally and universally accepted that all voters in the colonies were experienced business people and at the beginning of this country, this held true. As the colonies prospered and filled with immigrants from Europe and the British Isles, this standard came under assault simply from the press of an increased population of immigrant workers with their immigrant worker mentality. When Women’s Suffrage came into play, a butt-load of feminine emotionalism was added to the immigrant worker mentality so that the sensible business standard upon which America got it’s start was totally overwhelmed by the touchy egotism of women and under servants, and now every political decision made in America today is based on lower class egotism and feminist emotionalism rather than good sound business practice. Is anyone out there still wondering where the national deficit came from?

This is a true and accurate account of our financial history, simply put, for the edification of the average reader. It is capable of almost infinite refinement for the more advanced but I will leave that to those who can lay legitimate claim to such advancement.

In a word, it has not been a good or a productive idea to give the management of this country over to women, children, and day laborers via some grandiose idea of voter equality rights. I remember during the Vietnam police action the antiwar “activists” made a big stink about drafting boys to fight at the age of eighteen but not allowing them to vote until they were twenty one. Anyone else remember that? Oh My God! That was soooo unfair! I do not remember anyone bothering to answer these dilettantes at the time but I do remember thinking—it doesn’t take any brains to kill someone, it does take some multilevel thinking to guide a family, city, state, or nation on a stable, prosperous path. A quality you will not find prominent in eighteen year olds of either gender. Using the antiwar activist standard of public fitness, we might have saved a certain state millions in legal costs and incarceration fees and simply elected Ted Bundy as President. He killed lots of people.

Alieff Farwell

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With the rise of Women’s Suffrage and the ongoing march of Women’s Liberation, we have lost sight of some very basic values. The importance of feelings. Does this statement sound to you like an oxymoron? It’s not. I will explain.

Emotional fulfillment is the most important aspect of our lives as sentient beings. It is not sexual fulfillment, it is not financial “success,” it is not the acquiring of a higher educational degree. The need for refined, emotional fulfillment is what separates us from the other animals whose needs are much more rudimentary and essentially physical in nature. Emotional fulfillment is supplied by others who care about you as a person, people who are genuinely interested in the highs and lows of your life everyday, both the small and the large. The process of fulfillment is completed by your returning of these interests to those who supply them to you. As of this date, the 14th of April in the year 2013 Current Era, America has more college graduates and less emotionally fulfilled citizens than any other country in the history of this planet.  Let us now trace the cause of this phenomenon. It comes in two installments.

Part one. The Wife and Mother or — Displaced Homemakers.

Women are the emotional heart of the family. Our ability to empathize makes us invaluable as emotional supporters wherever needed. Being a wife and mother is a bona-fide career. To excel at anything, one must pursue it as a life focus. You do not hear of an eminent neurosurgeon who is also a world-renowned astrophysicist. The reason that men have never wished for their wives to also have a career is that she will be the emotional center of their home. He provides the money to support the home and she provides the emotional fulfillment. If she has to work outside the home, all of that emotional fulfillment will be missing. And nowadays, it is. It is only within the last forty years that our society has deliberately turned it’s face away from the vital importance of the role of wife and mother. This desertion has been engineered by other women. Men really had nothing to do with it.

Women’s Suffrage and Liberation have insisted that all female children born in this country be groomed for high-powered careers outside the home.(whether they want it or not) This notion is not powered by a wish for the girls well-being or personal fulfillment. It is based on the feminist teaching that as husbands and providers, men are not to be trusted so every female must be financially independent of all men. This is what we are currently teaching our girls in our educational process.  Being a wife and mother is a minimum-wage type of thing to a Feminist chiefly because it involves a healthy and trusting relationship with a man and Feminists are afraid of, and hate, men. If they want to live their lives based on fear and hate that is their prerogative but why are we letting them teach their personal poisons to our daughters via the schools?

Part two. The Husband and Father or — Displaced Husbands.

Back in the sixties when women’s lib was getting under way one of their battle cries was– “men have a career and a marriage so why can’t women? It’s not fair!” I addressed this issue in the above paragraphs. I know whereof I speak here because I had a front row seat for this bout. This  is the year 2013 CE and the decision is in. The American family unit lost on points. The sixties generation of females got what they thought they wanted–careers. The husband is now an after thought. It has been especially informative to follow the husbands that have been ‘supportive’ of her ‘career.’ I have listened to so many brag about that. Until they found he was having an affair with his co-worker because ‘she made him feel special.’  That really was the wife’s job you know, but she was so busy being liberated and supported and career oriented that she paid no attention to his emotional needs. And you know what? It was all his fault for being unfaithful.

This post is about the importance of feelings and I am stating here that men have feelings too. They need to feel needed. Anyone does. Being the provider for the family is really the only way a decent man has of showing his love in a practical hands-on manner. It is especially important to him in his feelings as a husband. We have allowed our daughters to be taught to despise their husbands feelings and needs as being only ‘male ego’ and unworthy of notice. Since the onset of women’s liberation it has become a point of honor with many females to totally ignore the emotional needs of the men in their lives. It really has. Is this humane? Is this an appropriate response to perceived gender issues? Is this what ‘liberation’ has done for females as a whole? So, now we have lots of divorced female wage earners with a career who are really struggling to provide for their fatherless children all alone and about ninety percent of the time this situation has been engineered by the women themselves. This is the financial independence that their schooling taught them to seek. The women are unhappy, their children are unhappy, and the men who have been driven out of their position as husband, provider and father by the totally unrealistic expectations of the women they married are more unhappy than the rest. Yes, most of these men are unhappy with being divorced from their homes and children.

So what’s the bottom line here? The young women of America, our future wives and mothers are being emotional brutalized themselves by our educational system and it’s expectations of them. The Feminist agenda thought to change the world by changing the way our daughters are educated. They thought that by teaching young girls to be assertive, competitive, emotionally hard-boiled, and financially self-centered they would really “show” the evil man’s world what was what and be better off themselves. And just look at the mess they have made.

If a young girl really is motivated towards a career instead of marriage, by all means support her choice. But we need to stop selling our girls the notion that they have to do both. We need to re-instill in our girls the sense of respect for marriage and motherhood that is natural to them and allow room for it to develop. The last forty years have been artificially induced by a small set of unbalanced feminine minds and we are quite capable of seeing that this stops so that our future husbands, wives, and children have a stable home where the importance of everybody’s feelings are given the right attention.

Alieff Farwell

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I have had a lot to say about petticoat government lately. I have expressed my dissatisfaction with the methods, aims, leadership, and so-called “accomplishments” of both the Women’s Suffrage Movement and it’s granddaughter, Women’s Liberation. I think that for clarity’s sake, I need to develop this theme just a little more.

Back in the day, before the suffrage movement was just getting under way, there was a genuine need for reform on several levels. The women in most upper class western societies  had no effective legal redress against abusive fathers or husbands. If they left them, the man in question could just hunt them down and bring them back. That was the law, very like that which governed runaway slaves. Women had no real property rights in many instances and as they were barred from pursuing a lucrative profession their only option was to try and get a job as a chambermaid, governess, or some other minimum wage job where they would be exposed to the predations of any male in their sphere. This really amounted to no choice at all and then it only worked if they were not pursued by the law. Middle and upper class females were raised to be dependent on their men and if these men happened to be drunken a-holes, well, the poor things were basically stuck. A well bred lady didn’t make a public scene about family troubles.

Notice that I specified upper class here. The females who were born into less affluent families did not have the same problems. The accepted standard of behavior was far different in the working class. If dad or hubby got drunk and tried to be abusive, young Nell or Daisy was as apt to brain him with the fry pan as not and let the chips fall where they would, and dad and hubby knew that. The working class families lived their lives in the kitchen where fry pans were close at hand. The ladies of the upper class lived in the drawing room and had no such domestic weaponry at their disposal. I suppose they could have brained their domestic brute with a Dresden china shepardess but somehow that would not have been the same.

It was also understood by the men of the working class that women sometimes needed to defend themselves at home and a man that brought such retribution down on himself was perceived as getting his just desserts, by the other men. In the working class, there were no servants to hide behind, no public perceptions of lady like behavior that hindered the women from doing what they needed to do if self defense became a survival issue in the home.  Everyone understood that domestic relationships were sometimes violent and ugly and this class of people were prepared to acknowledge and deal with it. This was by no means the case in the upper classes. And here you come to the real crux of the matter. The unwritten but highly effective codes of behavior that really govern our society, laws and legislation not withstanding.

Again we are back in the day. Upper class men were expected to conduct themselves as gentlemen in public. They were expected to be honest and competent in their business, to refrain from public drunkenness at social events and to pay their gambling debts, if any. This last was as big item. Social gambling was a very popular pastime in the upper reaches of society. Games of whist and other card games were a regular feature at balls, gatherings, and gentlemen’s clubs. This was socially acceptable. Men were expected not to gamble more than they could afford to lose. If a ‘gentleman’ lost more than he could afford he was black listed by his club(s) and ostracized from society. This was as low as a ‘gentleman’ could fall and once there, he was not allowed back. This was a very severe thing back then and the thought of it was a deterrent to many.

There were also places called ‘gaming hells’ that were run by professional gamblers where any ‘gentleman’ was free to gamble away the family estates and fortunes upon which his dependents counted for their support as well. No social pressures were brought to bear in such cases. The rest of ‘Society’ thought it a great shame of course, and gossiped freely about the recreants but– a ‘gentleman’ had a god given right to mind his own business and if he did not do so very well, that was just too bad. It was not an unusual story back then for ladies of means, raised to be ornaments to society, to find themselves on the street with small children to support and no means whatever of doing that. I will again point out here that this situation was inherently upper class. Women from working class families had saleable job skills, they were expected to have them, they did use them, so if a domestic problem arose, they were not nearly as bad off as their upper class sisters.

I have created this post here to point out two things:

#1.) Social pressure from a peer group is very effective in moderating excessive or selfish behaviors and the men of that day were well aware of it’s finer points and practiced in it’s applications so they had absolutely no excuse for not applying the same methods to those ‘gentlemen’ among them who were well known to be compulsive gamblers or abusive drunks at home. Those men did not do this.

#2.) Women’s Suffrage and it’s granddaughter, Women’s Liberation were not conceived for the empowerment of all women. They were generated by a miniscule group of nobly born ladies to correct the misbehavior of an equally miniscule group of nobly born “Gentlemen.” There were no “Universal Wrongs” against women at issue.

These social issues, domestic violence, drunkenness, and gambling, were three of the major motivations behind the Suffrage movement and it was a black shame to the upper class men of the western world that some of their women were forced to resort to such measures as public protests in order to defend themselves—from their own.

Our present governmental problems have arisen from this social background, this tiny percentage of upper class male misbehaviors and the lack of effective deterrents to it that were available to the rest of the upper class males and— were not used.

I hope I have kept this simple enough for my friends and followers. Since this issue is still causing such public outcry’s today. I will develop this theme by degrees, in a few more of my posts.

In conclusion, I will emphasize my sympathy for the issues of domestic violence and financial dependency that gave birth to the Suffrage Movement. I will also explain why I have no sympathy with the methods that were adopted to combat them. It should be obvious by now that they are not only ineffective but they are causing even more trouble, and these issues are too important to the survival of our society as a whole to be left in legislative and social limbo.

A. Farwell

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During the Revolutionary War, one of our founding fathers made this much quoted remark–“Now is the time for all good men to come to the aid of their country.”

We can really use our good men today.  Because we are in the worst fight America has ever faced. We are being eaten alive from within in the name of freedom and rights. I keep asking myself– ‘who are these people and where did they come from?’ Where did they get the notion that making movies about sex with children and animals is a freedom our fore fathers died for and our mothers sacrificed their husbands and sons to? Where did they get the notion that freedom of speech includes public profanity and self-centered whining about what their employers and the  government “owe” them just because they say so? Pornography  is available 24/7 now on all the cable and satellite networks and sexual predators of women and children are increasing. Why is this so?

It’s because we are missing our men. Our mature adult men who are husbands, fathers, and brothers and who still retain a sense of what they need to do to protect their families, their wives and their daughters and their sons. In the last hundred years of political babble about women’s rights we have not been blessed with thinking females to head up such a cause and we are reaping the results of this today. Susan B. Anthony did not deliver many addresses on the subject of sexual predators that I know of.

During the first years of women’s suffrage much ado was made about woman’s right to vote and hold jobs in the professions. The EVIL MEN were “oppressing” the females of this nation by not encouraging their daughters to go out in the work force and be independent. Wives and daughters of respectable families were expected to occupy themselves at home and in their local communities. The man of the family worked to provide for them. Usually the father or husband but often this fell on the brother or even the uncle if the father or husband died and did not leave some sort of income for his dependents. And there was an expectation that he would do just that if at all possible. That is why savings accounts and life insurance were invented. It was so that the tender ones in the family did not have to expose themselves to the very real dangers and ugliness that awaited them in the real world. How dreadful! How limiting! How unfair, and unprogressive! And how very wise. Yes, I said wise.

You see, the men of that era, just like the men of this era, knew that there are predators among us and that their wives and daughters and their very young sons have no defense against them.

There are financial predators that offer loan shark type deals and easy credit to the young. Sexual predators and criminals of every sort choose their intended victims by estimating how much trouble there will be in case of attack. Unattended females and small children are an invitation that they are not slow in accepting. Our men seem to have this knowledge hardwired into their psyches. Probably from the thousands of years as the designated protector of the tribe/clan. Women not so much and children of course, not at all. So in publicizing all this liberation for females, our society has in effect, posted an open season notice on all the tender members of our society. We have totally emasculated the angry father/husband/brother deterrent value of our men. And believe me, that deterrent is not to be sneered at. Predators do not focus on an adult male with a self-confident air if there is any other choice on offer and our society has given them a smorgasbord of choices by casting our men in the role of supreme social villain.

Our men are not villains. They are our fathers and husbands and brothers and we need to show the decent, caring ones more respect on every level–especially in public. Let’s ’empower’ them again, for all our sakes.

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One of the reasons I tend to go on so about modern women’s issues is that I believe we are missing a very crucial point. And this goes back to the very beginning of the “Emancipation” movement of the 1800’s. Women were not allowed to do so many things back in the day. Voting was the very least of them although that made the most noise.
My view about women’s issues is this—
Of course we have brains as good as any mans. We can and did replace them in every hands on job the World War II effort needed while the men were away fighting to prevent Hitler taking over the world. They did what they had to and we did the same.
The real point to my mind is—- men cannot replace us. Certainly in motherhood. But look at our lives today and envision the life your young daughters are going to have. Graceless, restless, full of the cheapest public sexuality that demeans both men and women. Here is a news flash ladies, decent men don’t love the notion of being treated like a mindless stud animal any more than women want to be treated like breeding stock. Yes, there are decent men around. Look for the guy with his mouth shut.
This is the year 2011. I think we’ve made our point girls. Yes, we are fully capable of being scientists and doctors. Men however, are still not capable of being mothers and our homes are now a travesty. We are missing the stability, grace, and nurturing environment in our homes and therefore our communities that only full-time wives and mothers can provide. Men cannot replace us in this field. I think a woman should be able to pursue a career if she so chooses and I think we have pretty much got that issue licked now. But look at our country. Men are still working and being fathers and providers. That has not changed. We have so much trouble and unrest, especially among our children because we are all missing the efforts or our full-time moms. To her husband, children, and community, the full-time mother is irreplaceable.
I hope that women growing up today will now find the self-respect they felt cheated of in past generations. I hope that those girls who choose to be a wife and mother will commit themselves full-time to the job with a true understanding of just how irreplaceable they really are. Maybe then we can start to rebuild our homes, communities, and country.

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