With the rise of Women’s Suffrage and the ongoing march of Women’s Liberation, we have lost sight of some very basic values. The importance of feelings. Does this statement sound to you like an oxymoron? It’s not. I will explain.
Emotional fulfillment is the most important aspect of our lives as sentient beings. It is not sexual fulfillment, it is not financial “success,” it is not the acquiring of a higher educational degree. The need for refined, emotional fulfillment is what separates us from the other animals whose needs are much more rudimentary and essentially physical in nature. Emotional fulfillment is supplied by others who care about you as a person, people who are genuinely interested in the highs and lows of your life everyday, both the small and the large. The process of fulfillment is completed by your returning of these interests to those who supply them to you. As of this date, the 14th of April in the year 2013 Current Era, America has more college graduates and less emotionally fulfilled citizens than any other country in the history of this planet. Let us now trace the cause of this phenomenon. It comes in two installments.
Part one. The Wife and Mother or — Displaced Homemakers.
Women are the emotional heart of the family. Our ability to empathize makes us invaluable as emotional supporters wherever needed. Being a wife and mother is a bona-fide career. To excel at anything, one must pursue it as a life focus. You do not hear of an eminent neurosurgeon who is also a world-renowned astrophysicist. The reason that men have never wished for their wives to also have a career is that she will be the emotional center of their home. He provides the money to support the home and she provides the emotional fulfillment. If she has to work outside the home, all of that emotional fulfillment will be missing. And nowadays, it is. It is only within the last forty years that our society has deliberately turned it’s face away from the vital importance of the role of wife and mother. This desertion has been engineered by other women. Men really had nothing to do with it.
Women’s Suffrage and Liberation have insisted that all female children born in this country be groomed for high-powered careers outside the home.(whether they want it or not) This notion is not powered by a wish for the girls well-being or personal fulfillment. It is based on the feminist teaching that as husbands and providers, men are not to be trusted so every female must be financially independent of all men. This is what we are currently teaching our girls in our educational process. Being a wife and mother is a minimum-wage type of thing to a Feminist chiefly because it involves a healthy and trusting relationship with a man and Feminists are afraid of, and hate, men. If they want to live their lives based on fear and hate that is their prerogative but why are we letting them teach their personal poisons to our daughters via the schools?
Part two. The Husband and Father or — Displaced Husbands.
Back in the sixties when women’s lib was getting under way one of their battle cries was– “men have a career and a marriage so why can’t women? It’s not fair!” I addressed this issue in the above paragraphs. I know whereof I speak here because I had a front row seat for this bout. This is the year 2013 CE and the decision is in. The American family unit lost on points. The sixties generation of females got what they thought they wanted–careers. The husband is now an after thought. It has been especially informative to follow the husbands that have been ‘supportive’ of her ‘career.’ I have listened to so many brag about that. Until they found he was having an affair with his co-worker because ‘she made him feel special.’ That really was the wife’s job you know, but she was so busy being liberated and supported and career oriented that she paid no attention to his emotional needs. And you know what? It was all his fault for being unfaithful.
This post is about the importance of feelings and I am stating here that men have feelings too. They need to feel needed. Anyone does. Being the provider for the family is really the only way a decent man has of showing his love in a practical hands-on manner. It is especially important to him in his feelings as a husband. We have allowed our daughters to be taught to despise their husbands feelings and needs as being only ‘male ego’ and unworthy of notice. Since the onset of women’s liberation it has become a point of honor with many females to totally ignore the emotional needs of the men in their lives. It really has. Is this humane? Is this an appropriate response to perceived gender issues? Is this what ‘liberation’ has done for females as a whole? So, now we have lots of divorced female wage earners with a career who are really struggling to provide for their fatherless children all alone and about ninety percent of the time this situation has been engineered by the women themselves. This is the financial independence that their schooling taught them to seek. The women are unhappy, their children are unhappy, and the men who have been driven out of their position as husband, provider and father by the totally unrealistic expectations of the women they married are more unhappy than the rest. Yes, most of these men are unhappy with being divorced from their homes and children.
So what’s the bottom line here? The young women of America, our future wives and mothers are being emotional brutalized themselves by our educational system and it’s expectations of them. The Feminist agenda thought to change the world by changing the way our daughters are educated. They thought that by teaching young girls to be assertive, competitive, emotionally hard-boiled, and financially self-centered they would really “show” the evil man’s world what was what and be better off themselves. And just look at the mess they have made.
If a young girl really is motivated towards a career instead of marriage, by all means support her choice. But we need to stop selling our girls the notion that they have to do both. We need to re-instill in our girls the sense of respect for marriage and motherhood that is natural to them and allow room for it to develop. The last forty years have been artificially induced by a small set of unbalanced feminine minds and we are quite capable of seeing that this stops so that our future husbands, wives, and children have a stable home where the importance of everybody’s feelings are given the right attention.
Alieff Farwell
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